Even writing the title of this article makes me smile because it just sounds ridiculous! However, there are people who choose to live crappy lives and they tend to have a few things in common, like:
- They don’t get professional help for their issues.
- Blame others for their issues, failures, and where they are in life.
- Don’t bother to set goals. Or, they set them only to never look at them again.
- They create and live a more exciting life online.
- They have a secret–a secret that may harm others (even themselves) if it were to come out so they aren’t living truthfully or authentically.
- They are their own worst critic–especially when it comes to self-talk.
- They put others down to make themselves feel better; criticize and gossip about others. They bond with others by doing this.
- They let jealousy take over so they’re miserable (instead of allowing jealousy to motivate them).
- They compare themselves to impossibly high standards.
- They don’t eat right or exercise on a regular basis. Because there’s always tomorrow…
- They follow the crowd; they don’t question what feels wrong.
- Use excuses to quit.
- Surround themselves with people who are naysayers, criticizers, ne’er-do-wells, and others who aren’t going anywhere and don’t really want you going anywhere in life either.
- Complain about everything–and not do anything to resolve it.
- They are passive aggressive. Instead of stating what they need or what hurts them, they act it out.
I don’t think people consciously set out to live crappy lives, but instead, they live their lives in default.
You don’t have to live your life in default! You don’t have to contribute to your demise, to a lackluster life, to frustration, depression, and the like. You have within you the ability to live an incredible life. YOU are in charge of it. It’s your choice. No one else can do it for you. No one is going to magically rescue you (although it is such a pleasure to have someone share in your wonderful life with you). No one is going to exact revenge on who wronged you–besides, that wouldn’t feel good anyway, would it?
Instead of feeling sorry for what you’ve been through in life, instead of living in default, find things that will make you spring out of bed in the morning and put a giant smile on your face!
What lights you up? Make a list. Get in touch with those feelings that are loving and happy–not sad, angry and crappy.