I love meeting people. I love finding out who they are and getting to know them better (curiosity is a good trait to have as a therapist). When you first meet someone, first you introduce yourself and then you begin to learn about the other person and the other person about you. “Hi, my name is Nicole….” and yeah…you get the picture.
Well, I’ve shared so much on this blog, you probably already know I am remarried–this time around I found the love of my life, my soul mate. I have 4 children: 3 girls and one boy (my stepson). I’ve had to go through the challenging experience of Parental Alienation twice–with one biological child and one step-child. Definitely a learning experience. I wish the other parent could place themselves in our shoes. And, to know how deeply this harms a child.
I live a healthy lifestyle–I eat really well (and I eat more than my husband!) and I work out on a consistent basis usually by running 3 miles 4 times a week. I am spiritual, not religious, and I practice Reiki. I used to be Catholic until I separated from my ex. The Church figures into my divorce to some degree–which I won’t get into here–but suffice it to say, I had a mini-spiritual crisis after my separation.
I received my bachelor’s degree in 2009, and my master’s degree in psychology in 2011. I took a couple years off and am in the process of completing my second master’s in marriage and family therapy. I went into MFT because of my personal experiences with divorce, blended families, and Parental Alienation. The court system sucks and many therapists do not understand the complexities involved with these issues. People need advocates in life to help them get through the rough spots–especially from someone who’s been there.
You might or might not know, I am the executive director of a non-profit for naturopathic physicians here in New York. I am passionate about natural and holistic health care. I believe NDs have earned the right to be licensed in the State of New York and recognized as physicians alongside of MDs. They put in the time, they have the background–they deserve recognition and we, the consumers, deserve the right to choose who we see as physicians.
You might or might not know that I’ve done a tremendous amount of “work” on myself–by myself and in therapy. In my therapy sessions, I’ve used EMDR. I loved it! I’ve had so much trauma in my life–including from some experiences post-separation from my ex–that it quickly helped me to process my “stuff.” I got fantastic results from this–it was like therapy on fast-forward. I will be learning this method to use in my own practice.
Okay, this is all well and good, but you can find a lot of this information on my site anyway. I mean, you probably already know too that:
- I was adopted at birth as a twin
- lost my adoptive mother and her unborn child/sibling at age 7
- went through neglect and abuse until I left home at 18
- I was married for 17 years before my surprise divorce.
These things do not define me, but they’ve definitely shaped who I am as a person.
Here are some things you may not know about me:
1. I love baby carrots (and I know they’re really not “baby” carrots). I should be a bunny. I also love really bold coffee and tea. Lots of tea.
2. My favorite shows are “Long Island Medium,” “Downton Abbey,” and “Restaurant Impossible.” I know!–they’re all so different.
3. I did a past life regression through hypnosis a few years ago and found out about 3 past lives. In two of them, I was a man.
4. When I asked my husband about words that describe me, he responded with: grace, kindness, warmth, and intelligence. My husband is 2 points above me on IQ (138). He’s the smartest man I’ve ever met–and not just intellectually. He is an amazing therapist/coach and blows away any therapist/coach out there.
5. I had migraines starting when I was 8 years old (right after my mother passed away). They were weekly occurrences when I was a teenager, then they became monthly ones. They ended abruptly when I was 39, when I separated from my ex. I haven’t had one since. I believe going to therapy to acknowledge and process the accumulation of childhood and adult pain got rid of my migraines. I also believe my first marriage would have made me sick if I continued in it (you can read more about my first marriage in my book Transforming Divorce).
So those are some things you may not know about me. How about you? What are some things others may not know about you?