What’s Steering Your Ship?

What’s Steering Your Ship?

Do you feel like you have no control over your life?   Can I ask you a question?  What’s steering your ship?   Your ship represents you and your precious life. Fears, inaccurate and unchallenged beliefs, and ineffective habits all try to steer your ship which...
How to Make the Most of Your Day

How to Make the Most of Your Day

My children are wonderful gift givers.  They are very thoughtful about the gifts they give.  About a year ago, my youngest gave me a mug for my birthday which says on the side of it: “It’s a beautiful day, don’t let it get away!”  I love that...
What Are Your Goals Right Now?

What Are Your Goals Right Now?

Here’s an all too familiar question that life coaches ask their clients: What are your goals right now? It’s a great question because it provides a focus and direction to your life.  Maybe it’s to own a nice house?  Vacation in Europe?  Drive a...
What’s Your Emotional Wound?

What’s Your Emotional Wound?

In our book The Secrets of Loving Relationships, my husband and I write about emotional wounding. Emotional wounds can harm your relationship by diminishing your ability to connect with your partner.  Emotional wounds can occur during adulthood, but many originate in...
I’m Not Good Enough

I’m Not Good Enough

I’m not good enough.  Is that something that crosses your mind a lot?  I would bet that a majority of people who read this article suffer from I’m not good enough.  You may not even be aware of it. I’m not good enough.  It’s a feeling that is...
A Meditation for Abundance

A Meditation for Abundance

Before you read the abundance meditation down below, I wanted to provide you with a chance to think about what abundance means to you.  When you think of abundance, what do you think of?  Is it money?  Abundance is more than having monetary wealth.  Abundance is a...
Playing in the Game of Life

Playing in the Game of Life

You are not meant to sit on the sidelines of life, watching the action. You are meant to be playing in the game–playing in the Game of Life.  There is nothing wrong with being cheerleaders or supporters of the players on the field, but you owe it to yourself to...
My Perfect Saturday

My Perfect Saturday

In my old life with my ex, I would spend my Saturdays mainly with my kids–which is fantastic, but it is a lonely life for a wife.  My ex would get up early and head to work.  Usually it was for half the day so he’d be home in the afternoon, but it left me...
What Makes a Good Marriage?

What Makes a Good Marriage?

If you had to give your relationship or marriage a rating on a scale of 0 being terrible to 10 being out-of-this world awesome, what would you rate it? Why would you give it that rating?  Are there certain areas of your marriage where you can’t seem to...
Love Defined

Love Defined

Love.  I recently heard a guest on an Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday show define love as kindness.  I would also add appreciation for when you appreciate something, you are in a space of love. Love has many nuances to it.  I love my husband, but this love is...
Nature, Beauty, and Personal Growth

Nature, Beauty, and Personal Growth

Yesterday my family and I went to visit one of my most favorite places:  Old Westbury Gardens.  Each spring we take a trip there (this year our trip happened to be the day after junior prom so we took my daughter’s prom date/boyfriend as well).  We walk through...
Why You Should Stop Beating Yourself Up

Why You Should Stop Beating Yourself Up

Mary Jo has been really diligent about starting an exercise routine.  For the past 2 weeks she got up at five every morning and went for a walk outside.  And then it rained.  And rained.  And rained.  Mary Jo thought to herself that she would go when it stopped...
Do You Want to Feel Happy or BE Happy?

Do You Want to Feel Happy or BE Happy?

I’ve recently begun meditation again after a long period off.  It’s hard, as any busy person can attest, to find the time to be still.  To begin this journey again, I bought Deepak Chopra’s and Oprah’s meditations on Finding Your Flow...
5 Easy Ways to Combat Stress

5 Easy Ways to Combat Stress

Ahhh stress….it feels like an old friend sometimes, doesn’t it?  Maybe you are having trouble sleeping or you’re snappier than usual.  Your family pays a price, your friends, co-workers–but who pays the biggest price?  YOU!  Your physical,...
5 Things You May Not Know About Me

5 Things You May Not Know About Me

I love meeting people.  I love finding out who they are and getting to know them better (curiosity is a good trait to have as a therapist).  When you first meet someone, first you introduce yourself and then you begin to learn about the other person and the other...
What Was the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You?

What Was the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You?

What was the best thing that ever happened to you?  Maybe it was meeting your soul mate?  Having awesome kids?  Landing your dream job?  Winning the lottery?  Meeting a celebrity? Would you ever answer the question with some kind of life challenge you’ve had?  I...
Getting Centered and Grounded

Getting Centered and Grounded

I begin my each of my coaching appointments with the client and I getting centered and grounded.  I think it’s a great way to start off a session for both of us.  I do this by having the client close their eyes (assuming they are not talking with me in their car...
When Drama Drags You Down

When Drama Drags You Down

Drama got you down?  Have you ever had one of those weeks–or months–that seems like there’s a situation occurring wherever you turn?  Drama in the family, crisis situation at work–it affects your sleep, your thoughts, your life! When you feel...
Reordering Your Priorities

Reordering Your Priorities

As a woman, I know all too well the superwoman feeling of having to do it all.  Let’s see…we’ve got work needs, home needs, personal needs, relationship needs, financial needs, social needs, spiritual needs–Whew!  No wonder work and life...
How to Make a Difference

How to Make a Difference

I love to read. At any given time, if you look on my desk or nightstand I have at least 5 books that I’m reading.  Right now for example, I’m reading MockingJay, Building Your Ideal Private Practice (for one of my classes in Marriage and Family...
5 Ways to Inject More Happiness into Your Life

5 Ways to Inject More Happiness into Your Life

Human beings experience a wide range of feelings during the day.  Think about this:  Let’s say you wake up excited about your day, then you get annoyed because your coffee spilled, then sad because you have to leave your kids to go to work, back to excited about...
Liebster Award Nomination

Liebster Award Nomination

It’s always great news to know someone has thought of your blog and wants to nominate it for a Liebster Award!  Especially since it’s my second nomination.  It’s also nice to know that even though I haven’t been as focused on the blog because...
Be Amazing

Be Amazing

Life certainly can hand you some challenges.  Let’s face it:  Sometimes you wonder what the heck you signed up for!  And yet, through it all, at the core of you is a changeless spirit–it’s not suffering, not judging, not doing or being anything but...
5 Ways to Kill Your Relationship

5 Ways to Kill Your Relationship

Have you ever been out in public and a couple has caught your attention–and not in a good way?  Maybe they’re mean to one another, or one of them is ogling another person in their vicinity?  It’s uncomfortable to watch.  And what is so obvious in...
Inspirational Quote of the Week–Martha Beck

Inspirational Quote of the Week–Martha Beck

“Imagine what you’d do if it absolutely didn’t matter what people thought of you. Got it? Good. Never go back.” ~Martha Beck Confidence.  One of the definitions of confidence is the “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities;...
6 Ways to Get Yourself Out of a Bad Mood–Fast!

6 Ways to Get Yourself Out of a Bad Mood–Fast!

Ahhh the grumpies….Everyone gets in a bad mood once in awhile.  Maybe you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or someone inadvertently says something that triggers your grumpiness.  However you found yourself in a bad mood, you know you don’t want to stay...
Quote of the Week — Self-Confidence

Quote of the Week — Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk. ~Jack Gibb When was the last time you did something out of your comfort zone and it turned out to be a good thing?  We can spend so much time in fear, that all that thinking and avoiding takes us away from...
Quote of the Week — Anthony Robbins

Quote of the Week — Anthony Robbins

You want to change your life? Control the only thing you can control: the meaning you give something. ~Anthony Robbins I love this quote especially because I’ve been learning in grad school about different therapy models that address changing the client’s...
What Divorce Has Taught Me

What Divorce Has Taught Me

I think divorce has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through.  I’ve dealt with the death of my mother at age 7 (she was pregnant and died suddenly from a pulmonary embolism), neglect and abuse in my childhood after that, the death of my...
It Starts with a Question

It Starts with a Question

This week I’ve been studying solution-focused brief therapy and it reminds me a lot of life coaching.  The therapist uses questions to get their clients to focus on solutions, not their problems. They also use a lot of “cheerleading” and they are...
Quote of the Week–To Love More

Quote of the Week–To Love More

In honor of Valentine’s Day this week, I chose this quote: When all your desires are distilled you will cast just two votes: To love more and be happy. ~Hafiz of Persia I chose this quote also because one of my assignments for a marriage and family therapy class...
Quote of the Week — There are no Failures

Quote of the Week — There are no Failures

There are no failures—just experiences and your reactions to them. ~Tom Krause When failures occur, often people become flustered, embarrassed, angry–all sorts of emotions surface because of the experience of failure.  But, what if there was no such thing as...
Which Comes First:  Your Marriage or Your Children?

Which Comes First: Your Marriage or Your Children?

This post came about because of caller’s dilemma on Dr. Laura’s show on Sirius Radio.  It is my reflection on Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s views of divorce and second marriages.  As a remarried mother of 4 children (three daughters and a stepson), I am...
It’s Your Life–Let It Shine!

It’s Your Life–Let It Shine!

I have a question to ask:  Do you play small?  What I mean by that is, do you shrink in life because you are fearful or because you don’t feel worthy?  There are many people who feel this way.  I want to invite those who know their life could be better to shed...
New Year’s Resolutions for Your Spirit

New Year’s Resolutions for Your Spirit

Time and time again, people will create these awesomely amazing resolutions like this year I will get rich, I will be organized, or I will lose weight–only to lose sight of their goal after a month of not quite being on track with it.  It can be overwhelming to...
Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

Happy new year to all! Wishing you success and abundance in all areas of your life! The first of the new year is traditionally the time to sit down, assess our lives, and based upon our assessments, create goals and resolutions to help create an extraordinary life. ...
5 Ways to Show Your Appreciation

5 Ways to Show Your Appreciation

Showing appreciation is a nice way to show someone you care and are thinking of them.  Today, reach out to someone by doing or saying something kind.  Let them know:  How have they touched your life? It takes only a moment, but lasts so much longer for the person you...
Quote of the Week

Quote of the Week

This week’s quote is by Anthony Robbins: “How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?”  ~Anthony Robbins I thought this quote was especially pertinent with the New Year right around the corner.  Most people...
Quote of the Week

Quote of the Week

This week’s quote came from Facebook: “Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.” It reminds me of the Golden Rule, which is based on your behaviors:  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Or, do no harm....
15 Ways to Create a Crappy Life

15 Ways to Create a Crappy Life

Even writing the title of this article makes me smile because it just sounds ridiculous!  However, there are people who choose to live crappy lives and they tend to have a few things in common, like: They use excuses to quit. Blame others for their issues, failures,...
Do You Dream Big?

Do You Dream Big?

This past winter, my daughters were excited at the thought of no school because of an impending blizzard (the whole area was abuzz with the news of an upcoming storm–another glorious, full-blown, might-lose-our-power-yet-again storm!).  How fun it’d be,...
Quote of the Week

Quote of the Week

I love quotes.  I collect them–really!  I have a document on my computer that is 70 pages of just quotes.  So, you can imagine the dilemma each week having to come up with a quote–because there’s so many of them! Since it’s Thanksgiving this...
Healthy Functioning Families

Healthy Functioning Families

Ah, the holidays…great food, great memories, great company.  Okay, so maybe some of you are a little anxious about spending time with the family.  Lots of people dread the holidays because it means spending time with family members who you don’t get along...
Quote of the Week

Quote of the Week

This week’s quote is a great one to remember if you tend to neglect yourself in the process of supporting others in your life.  Or, if you feel guilty about spending time improving yourself–whether it’s improving your body, mind, or spirit. Life is a...
How to Spot a Bad Therapist

How to Spot a Bad Therapist

Making the choice to go see a therapist can be hard.  It’s an incredibly important and personal decision to admit you need professional guidance about some aspect of your life.  You feel vulnerable, maybe a little excited at the opportunity to change your life,...
Suffering is a Choice–Just Like Being Happy Is

Suffering is a Choice–Just Like Being Happy Is

I love quotes.  I can sit for hours reading various quotes in books or on the Internet.  I collect quotes that resonate with me and keep a Word doc on the ones I like.  I think the right quote at the right time can be quite powerful.  This quote is one of my favorites...
The Liebster Award

The Liebster Award

I’d like to thank Vicki M. Taylor for nominating my blog for the Liebster Award!  Vicki’s blog is Your Writing Coach, so I felt it was especially kind of her to nominate me!  Woohoo! I’m a curious type so I wanted to know what exactly was a Liebster...
Quote of the Week

Quote of the Week

I love quotes.  I love their succinct messages and their pearls of wisdom.  I got the idea for this post series from a fellow blogger, Leah Davidson at RaisingFlowersandSkids.com.  Not only does she post a quote of the week on her website, she selects quotes of the...
What Makes You Happy?

What Makes You Happy?

I am writing this post in the midst of doing a 7-page paper on strategic family therapy.  It’s Tuesday and it has already been a busy week.  As the new Executive Director of a smaller nonprofit, I’ve come into the position with some great ideas for growth,...
Five Things that Will Kill Your Relationship

Five Things that Will Kill Your Relationship

If you want to keep your marriage healthy and happy, there are four things you definitely do not want to do, so says John Gottman of the Gottman Institute. 1.  Criticism.  This is criticism of your partner, not their behaviors, but an aspect of their personality or...
Handling Emotional Attacks

Handling Emotional Attacks

Confrontations with people who attack you emotionally can leave you feeling drained, hurt, upset, and confused.  You may wonder afterwards what it was you did to them and why you made them so angry. Instead of “taking on their stuff” and taking it...
How to Keep from Feeling Anxious

How to Keep from Feeling Anxious

This post is a request from aduckinherpond.com — how to keep from feeling anxious.  Love that idea!  So first, a little background.  What is anxiety?  It is a feeling of nervousness, stress, worry, and fear.  These feelings can range from mild to moderate to...
Dealing with Financial Stress

Dealing with Financial Stress

If you are not feeling wealthy, it is easy to slip into worry about your financial situation.  Living above your means or paycheck to paycheck may be a reality; but becoming stressed, overwhelmed, or complaining about the situation does not help!  In fact, it makes...
How to Keep from Feeling Overwhelmed

How to Keep from Feeling Overwhelmed

Jen has stacks and stacks of papers, files, and books on her desk, chair, and floor in her office.  “The file’s here somewhere,” she thinks to herself, her voice tinged with a hint of anxiety. In today’s world, you’re in the minority if...
Are You Having Fun Yet?

Are You Having Fun Yet?

One of the most pleasurable aspects of life is having fun, yet when you look around, it really doesn’t look like many people are.  Sometimes I like to look into other people’s cars while I’m on the road (and while I’m stopped at a light) to see...
What are the Bad Habits that Hold You Back?

What are the Bad Habits that Hold You Back?

What are the bad habits that hold you back in life; that have kept you from living your best life?  What can you think of that has affected your ability to really shine in life?  Too much tv or computer time?  Overeating?  Not taking the time to exercise?  Smoking?...
Guest Blogger over at A Dish of Daily Life

Guest Blogger over at A Dish of Daily Life

I was thrilled to be asked to be a guest blogger this week over at A Dish of Daily Life.  The topic?  Dealing with Unwanted Parenting Advice.  Michelle (the awesome gal from A Dish of Daily Life) has already written the first article in the series.  You can read it...
Why I Love My Husband

Why I Love My Husband

Before my website crashed on that fateful day of August 26, 2013*, I had written a post about things I love about my husband.  I originally got the idea off another blog and I don’t remember whose it was, but I came across the idea again thanks to...
10 Ways to Make Someone’s Day

10 Ways to Make Someone’s Day

When life gets busy, we can take our loved ones for granted.  Sometimes, we can also get a little grouchy and take it out on the nearest person–your partner, your kids, or the cashier at the store.  Oh boy!  How can you make it nice for others around you? Here...
Negative Repetitive Thoughts

Negative Repetitive Thoughts

Repetitive thoughts about anger, frustration, or suffering serve to keep you continually visiting the past or future-projecting into the future.  You become comfortable with the uncomfortable feelings, giving them permission to take over the present moment. Like an...
15 Ways to Cut Down on Stress

15 Ways to Cut Down on Stress

Stress.  It wreaks havoc on your physical health, not to mention your emotional health and well-being. What gets you stressed out?  Some familiar triggers are: balancing work and life, finances, your job, your family, a conflict, boundary issues, or traffic/commute....
What Makes You Feel Good?

What Makes You Feel Good?

“Think thoughts that make you feel good, make choices that make you feel good, and take actions that make you feel good.” ~Cheryl Richardson, You Can Create an Exceptional Life As I enter the second week after this entire website crashed, I am filled with...
Tapping Into Your Potential

Tapping Into Your Potential

How can the self-help and personal development field help you to: be happy deal positively with emotions such as anger and sadness love yourself create loving relationships use effective goal-setting techniques be successful and wealthy define YOUR best life? You can...
Visualize Your Future and Success Your Way

Visualize Your Future and Success Your Way

Vision boards are a fun and creative way to express your dreams and goals.  It’s a road map to your best life that can have you on the path to incredible success in no time! Sometimes goal-setting seems, well, boring! It’s a great way to accomplish...
How to Thrive in Life (and Not Just Survive)

How to Thrive in Life (and Not Just Survive)

20 Ways to Thrive in Your Life Many of the people my husband and I coach are at a transition point in their lives or they are experiencing pain and no longer want to be in struggle.  Wherever you are in life, everyone wants to be living a better life–their best...
Coaching Exercises that Work!

Coaching Exercises that Work!

The Wheel of Life–A Coaching Exercise with Big Results! One of the life coaching tools we use for goal-setting in our coaching practice is the Wheel of Life exercise.  This is used by many coaches to help guide clients to lead a more balanced, authentic, and...
24 Things that Will Change Your Life

24 Things that Will Change Your Life

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”~Barack Obama Often in life, major life changes occur when there is divorce, death, illness, the...
Your Life is a Masterpiece

Your Life is a Masterpiece

Your life is a masterpiece.  This work of art, your life, is perfect just as it is; you are already a masterpiece.  You don’t need to do anything, say anything, or be anything–you are already enough. Since you are the artist of your life and if you choose,...