This is Why Feeling Stressed and Overwhelmed Can Take Over Your Life!

Whenever you’re ready, here are 4 ways I can help you take your life from ordinary to extraordinary; mundane to magnificent! 1. Online Courses These courses are full of practical tips and tools you won’t find anywhere else. Click here 2. E-Books You’ll find instantly downloadable books jam-packed with information you can start using immediately to make a difference […]

3 Proven Tips that Will Help Your Relationship

Since Valentine’s Day (in the US) is right around the corner, I thought I’d write about 3 proven tips that will help you have a better relationship. What better gift to someone than to not just give a card, candy, flowers, or jewelry, but to make an investment in your relationship by implementing one or […]

Want a More Loving Relationship? Start with Your Habits!

When I work with clients on their relationships, we’ll go over their thoughts, beliefs, and actions, starting out with the ones they think are holding them back (and then what they’d like more of). Have you thought about how many of your thoughts and behaviors have become habits that have become so ingrained in you, […]

A Little Non-Profit Business

Many of you may not know, but I am the executive director of a small non-profit. I came on board when a friend asked me to consider taking the helm of the organization. I believe in their cause, and the hours and flexibility are wonderful. Plus, with all different kinds of personalities and ideas that […]

How I Met My Soul Mate, Part 3: My Happy Ending

This is part 3 of my journey of meeting and marrying my soul mate. In this series of articles, I share how I found authentic and conscious love and how you can, too. In part 1, I wrote about how my childhood set me up for disaster. In part 2, I wrote about how my […]

How I Met My Soul Mate, Part 2: How My Childhood Affected My Choice for a Husband

This is the part 2 of my journey of meeting and marrying my soul mate. In this series of articles, I share how I found authentic and conscious love and how you can, too. In part 1, I wrote about how my childhood set me up for disaster. Entering Adulthood I flunked out of Syracuse […]

How I Met My Soul Mate, Part 1: My Childhood Set Me Up for Disaster

This is the part 1 of my journey of meeting and marrying my soul mate. In this series of articles, I share how I found authentic and lasting love, and how you can, too. I remember meeting the love of my life like it was yesterday. I saw him standing in the parking lot of […]

The Wheel of Life and Other Amazing Life Coaching Tools

It’s been a whirlwind couple of weeks of writing e-books and preparing for future, upcoming video e-courses I am creating. Recently I’ve written Vision: How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams, and I’ve revised Shine!, and The Wheel of Life. These are all immediately downloadable and approximately 30 pages jam-packed with tons of information I use […]

Couples in Conflict Often Do This

[et_pb_section bb_built=”1″][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text] In this vlog, I share with you some of my thoughts on couples in conflict. I shot this video on the beach near my home, soon after a storm. The storm wiped out a lot of the old debris kind of leaving us with a new canvas. It also left in its […]

Why Taking a Time Out is Good for You

Is taking a time out from an argument when you or your loved one are worked up, a good idea? An author on a book about emotional intelligence believes emotionally intelligent people don’t walk away from conflict. In this video message, I talk about what I believe is emotionally healthy when two people in a […]

A Valentine’s Day Video Message

Today is Valentine’s Day and I thought I would do something a little different. Instead of writing a post, I made a short video for you. This is for anyone, regardless of their relationship status. By the way, I think everyday should be a day focused on giving and receiving love.  This is just another […]

How Will You Make 2018 Your Best Year Yet?

Wow! What a year!  Will you look back on 2017 as an extraordinary year? Or was it a year that was particularly challenging? A year that saw you reaching your goals or brought you closer to them? Or, did you find yourself struggling to meet even your daily tasks and/or still wishing for better things […]

Loving Relationships Have These Two Things in Common

In the last article, 7 Reasons Why Your Relationship Might Not Make It, I wrote about the 7 relationship skills that have a tremendous impact on your relationship. Here’s a recap: Communication. Knowing how to communicate in a healthy way makes a huge difference. This includes listening, keeping a majority of your interactions positive, and […]

7 Reasons Why Your Relationship Might Not Make It

When it comes to having a happy and healthy relationship, there is all kinds of advice out there. Some advice is good, and some not so good. When it comes to advice, it is important to think about the source. There are relationship “experts” who aren’t “walking their talk”. Unfortunately, some also provide disastrous advice […]

What I’ve Been Up To…

Want to know one of the key factors to living your best life? Having great relationships.  Think about it: If your significant relationships with your partner, family, and/or friends aren’t great, then it  affects the other parts of your life. If relationships suck- or your marriage is crap, or your friends would sell you out […]

Why You Might Be Headed Down the Road to Divorce and What You Can Do About It

Ah love…First you meet each other, then you fall in love, and then if it reaches this point, you decide to get married. It’s wonderful, those first months and years of being in a serious relationship. It’s at that stage in your relationship that maybe you laugh more together. You do more fun things. You […]

18 Quotes About Love and Relationships That Will Inspire You

[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”][et_pb_row admin_label=”Row”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” background_layout=”light” text_orientation=”justified” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#ffffff” border_style=”solid”] Relationships are the best way to find out about others and about yourself. Relationships can have a huge impact in your life on how you thrive, stay alive, or barely manage to survive. There’s so much advice out there on how to have healthy, happy, […]

3 Reasons Why Your Relationship Has Lost Its Spark and What You Can Do About It

Are you bored with your relationship and your partner? Do you wish your relationship was like it used to be–like when you first met? Maybe your partner was more romantic, thoughtful, talkative, or less grumpy? There’s something so nice about being in a relationship that lasts for years–not months, weeks, or days. A relationship that […]

How Much Do You Know About Your Partner?

Want to know how to have a better relationship?  On a scale of one to ten, ten being the highest, answer this question:  How much do you know about your partner?  Do you know their favorite color?  Their favorite food?  Favorite restaurant?  Favorite date night idea?  Their worst fear?  Biggest role model?  Where they want to […]

5 Warning Signs that Your Relationship Could Use Some Attention

When you first fall in love, you aren’t thinking about how in the future relationships can get into a rut or you could eventually break up.  No, usually you’re too busy in the moment feeling that incredible feeling of intense love and passion for another person.  Then, months and years pass and maybe you’re married, have […]

A Coaching (and Counseling) Tool that Can Have a HUGE Impact on Your Life

With a coaching and counseling background, I have been exposed to a lot of excellent resources that help people create better relationships with themselves, with their partner, and with their family.  I liken all of this education and knowledge to a tool box–there are all kinds of different tools therapists and coaches can use to […]

5 Quick Ways to Get Over the Blues

Got the blues?  With Autumn upon us, the days will start getting shorter and a lot of people will start spending more of their days inside (to me that even sounds depressing!).  During the winter months, some people will suffer from depression–or what clinicians call Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). No matter what label you put […]

Why Women Short-Change Themselves by Apologizing

Ever since my daughter joined her tennis team, I’ve been slowly getting more into tennis.  Recently on a Facebook post, I posted a picture of Serena Williams and referenced her loss at the U.S. Open this year saying something like “You’re still amazing!”  I can really appreciate athleticism and being your best, especially for a […]

How to Ruin a Relationship

If there were a course called Relationships 101, what would it cover?  There’s probably a course out there somewhere that’s called this, but let’s see if we can come up with some of the topics: How to communicate well How to honor your commitment How to honor each other’s dreams How to learn and grow […]

How to Have a Loving, Long-Lasting, and Successful Marriage

Our elders have a lot to teach us.  Recent research* has uncovered the reasons why long-married couples stay together–and by long-married I mean couples who have been together for 30,40, 50 or more years. What’s their advice for long-lasting love? The Top 5 Tips for Marriage Success 1.  Communicate well. 2.  Work as a team. […]

5 Reasons Why You Might Be Preventing a Great Relationship from Happening

When I was on the verge of turning 40, my 17-year marriage blew up into oblivion.  Divorced and alone, I faced the world with a certain resolve that I would not get in a relationship again.  I didn’t want to go through the heartbreak of another break up.  I also began to realize after time […]

5 Things You Can Do Today to Change Your Relationship

When life gets busy, hectic, or stressful, one of the first things to go on the proverbial back burner–besides your self-care–is your relationship.  Taking relationships for granted, thinking they’ll be there when you are less busy, less stressed, less in your head about other things instead of focusing on your relationship with your partner–can be poison.  Everyone has […]

3 Ways to Build Emotional Connection in Your Relationship

One thing I see a lot of in couples is the lack of emotional connection between them.  They are so busy or so distracted with other things in life, they don’t pay attention to how their relationship suffers because of the lack of attention and focus they give it.  Last week I wrote about how […]

Make Time for Your Relationships

Look around you and you’ll notice that most people are in a rush.  Hurry up to finish the project at work.  Hurry to get supper on the table.  Hurry to help the kids with their homework.  Hurry to kiss goodbye to your spouse as you rush out the door.  Hurry, hurry, hurry!  This feeling of […]

What’s Wrong with the “Five Love Languages”

I’m going to bet you’ve either heard of or you’ve read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  I read the book a long time ago when someone gave it to me as a gift.  I remember thinking it was really helpful (at that time, I remember too, that there were a few typos).  The […]

3 Reasons Why People Withdraw in Relationships

At the outset if I was more mature, aware, and conscious, I would have recognized that my first marriage was a disaster from the start (except that we have three beautiful children from this relationship).  Oh, our marriage was okay-ish for a long time–until we both hit middle age.  In the beginning of our marriage, […]

Do You Know What You Need in Your Relationship?

A lot of conflict in relationships boils down to one thing:  You and/or your partner aren’t getting your needs met.  Everyone has basic needs–like food, shelter, and water.  But do you know what your needs are when it comes to your relationship?  These are the needs that are the unconscious drivers behind every choice you […]

7 Secrets of Solid Marriages

Most people get married without knowing if they are truly a good match with their partner.  Your romantic feelings override those important discussions about roles, values, and major life issues.  You overlook the charming quirks.  There’s nothing like the feeling of falling head over heels in love.   During this phase of your relationship, you are excited […]

5 Ways to Know You’ve Lost Yourself

A while back, I wrote a post on the local AOL outlet Patch called “5 Ways to Know You’ve Lost Yourself” and although it was published over 2 years ago, it continues to be a popular article on their site.  I think that’s because a lot of people can relate to the feeling of being lost. […]

Why Character Matters in Relationships

Character–an ethical or moral quality; an aggregate of traits and features that comprise the nature of a person.  Character is more than what we notice about a person from the outside–it is who they are even when no one is watching.  When was the last time you thought about good character?  Do you know anyone […]

Practicing Gratitude

It’s Thanksgiving time!  This time of year in the United States, families look forward to spending time with family and cooking a huge, gigantic, gourmet meal centered around–pie.  No, it’s turkey.  It should be pie, but it’s all about the bird for most families.  Just to go off tangent for a minute–ironically, this is the time […]

It’s Electrifrying! How Some Couple’s Arguments Lead Right to Divorce

You’re in a fight with your partner.  Your heart is racing, your body feels rooted to the floor, and yet you feel like you want to run.  Or, maybe you feel incredibly irritated and you just want to lash out.  When you’re feeling adrenalized, and your fight or flight system is activated, it’s all you […]

Secrets for a Successful Marriage

One of the assignments for a class in my Marriage and Family Therapy program was to think of an issue relevant to families today and create a program for the issue.  Fun (I love this subject!)!  Our program couldn’t be based on opinion, it had to be backed by current research.  I named my program “How not to […]

Don’t Feed the Trolls!

I recently heard an interview on a Sirius radio show with a host asking someone their best piece of advice for the audience.  “Don’t feed the trolls,” they said. Don’t feed the trolls!  What a clever way of disguising a great skill to have in life in the form of myth!  This particular radio show (I’m on the […]

A Daisy is Just a Daisy–You Give It Meaning

I love daisies.  They’re beautiful flowers that for me exude a sense of innocence, naiveté, fun, and beauty in its simplest form. Some people may not like daisies because they don’t have a scent.  They prefer roses.  Roses come in more colors and varieties.  Plus, some of them smell heavenly! Some people don’t like roses […]

This Type of Thinking Is Terrible for Relationships

Watching the “Guardians of the Galaxy” movie with my stepson and husband recently (hey–good movie, by the way!), I found myself thinking about the classic Good Guy/Bad Guy scenario where you know who the villain is and who the heroes are.  It can be pretty black and white in the movies. In real life, it’s not […]

Birthdays and the Gift of Healing

Having given birth to three beautiful, healthy baby girls and as the mother of a wonderful stepson, I can truly appreciate the concept of celebrating birthdays.  The actual birth day is a wonderful celebration of life, miracles, and love.  Each year through the concept of birthdays, we celebrate the gift of a person’s birth and […]

Relationship Killers–5 Ways You May be Sabotaging Your Relationship

On one of my many trips to Disneyworld when my kids were younger, we sat behind an older couple of about sixty-five or seventy years old on a ride.  For the entirety of the ride around Animal Kingdom, the woman berated her husband.  He did not say one word while she, without raising her voice, […]

Moving Past the Pain of Being Rejected by Your Family

“When you meet anyone, treat the event as a holy encounter. It’s through others that we either find or love our self. For you see, nothing is accomplished without others. When you eliminate the concept of separation from your thoughts and your behavior, you begin to feel your connection to everything and everyone.” – Dr. Wayne […]