Want to know how to live an extraordinary life? Where you feel fulfilled, you’ve found your purpose, you’re pursuing your passions, and you are continuously growing? Yes?! I thought so…Read on dear reader! I’ve kept this post as simple as possible because it really doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some tips for living […]
I am a huge (American) football fan, but I admire other sports players and coaches, too. A coach I’ve long admired is legendary UCLA basketball coach John Wooden. He won 10 national championships in 12 years – a feat unmatched to this day! Amazing! Wooden’s secret? A philosophy for success he called the Pyramid of
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When I work with clients on their relationships, we’ll go over their thoughts, beliefs, and actions, starting out with the ones they think are holding them back (and then what they’d like more of). Have you thought about how many of your thoughts and behaviors have become habits that have become so ingrained in you,
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This is the part 1 of my journey of meeting and marrying my soul mate. In this series of articles, I share how I found authentic and lasting love, and how you can, too. I remember meeting the love of my life like it was yesterday. I saw him standing in the parking lot of
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[et_pb_section bb_built=”1″][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text] In this vlog, I share with you some of my thoughts on couples in conflict. I shot this video on the beach near my home, soon after a storm. The storm wiped out a lot of the old debris kind of leaving us with a new canvas. It also left in its
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Is taking a time out from an argument when you or your loved one are worked up, a good idea? An author on a book about emotional intelligence believes emotionally intelligent people don’t walk away from conflict. In this video message, I talk about what I believe is emotionally healthy when two people in a
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Anne (not her real name) came to see me to work on her relationship with her boyfriend and also to work on having more confidence and self-esteem. According to her, her boyfriend had all kinds of issues and did not treat her well. She thought she could “fix” him. To her, her lack of self-esteem
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[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”][et_pb_row admin_label=”Row”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” background_layout=”light” text_orientation=”justified” use_border_color=”off” border_color=”#ffffff” border_style=”solid”] Relationships are the best way to find out about others and about yourself. Relationships can have a huge impact in your life on how you thrive, stay alive, or barely manage to survive. There’s so much advice out there on how to have healthy, happy,
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Triangles (not the shape but the relationship dynamic) can mess up relationships especially if you aren’t aware of what they are and what they can do. Everyone, to some extent, has relationships that are triangles. Triangles, according to Murray Bowen*, a psychiatrist and one of the early marriage and family therapists, are “the smallest stable
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Glenda (not her real name) isn’t happy. It’s weird too–she feels like she should be. She’s got a great job and her kids are busy and doing pretty well in school. She has a great group of friends, and her parents are healthy and live an hour away from her. Her marriage is okay. It
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I’ve got a question for you: On a scale of one to ten, with one being the lowest and ten being the highest, how good of a role model for a loving relationship are you and your partner to your child(ren)? How do you think your partner would answer this? Your relationship with your partner
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When you first fall in love, you aren’t thinking about how in the future relationships can get into a rut or you could eventually break up. No, usually you’re too busy in the moment feeling that incredible feeling of intense love and passion for another person. Then, months and years pass and maybe you’re married, have
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With a coaching and counseling background, I have been exposed to a lot of excellent resources that help people create better relationships with themselves, with their partner, and with their family. I liken all of this education and knowledge to a tool box–there are all kinds of different tools therapists and coaches can use to
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When I was on the verge of turning 40, my 17-year marriage blew up into oblivion. Divorced and alone, I faced the world with a certain resolve that I would not get in a relationship again. I didn’t want to go through the heartbreak of another break up. I also began to realize after time
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When life gets busy, hectic, or stressful, one of the first things to go on the proverbial back burner–besides your self-care–is your relationship. Taking relationships for granted, thinking they’ll be there when you are less busy, less stressed, less in your head about other things instead of focusing on your relationship with your partner–can be poison. Everyone has
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Integrity: adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty (thank you dictionary.com). Having integrity as a person is a wonderful ideal. Ask people what character traits they value and most will respond with integrity as part of their list (maybe they–or you–have it up on your vision board or written down in
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Most people get married without knowing if they are truly a good match with their partner. Your romantic feelings override those important discussions about roles, values, and major life issues. You overlook the charming quirks. There’s nothing like the feeling of falling head over heels in love. During this phase of your relationship, you are excited
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Harmony. 1. agreement; accord; harmonious relations. 2. a consistent, orderly, or pleasing arrangement of parts; congruity (from dictionary.com). Harmony is also used to refer to music; t’s the blending of chords that produces sound that is pleasing to listen to. Harmony at home. Where individuals in a home create a place that is pleasant to
Wake up, rush to get ready, eat breakfast (if you’re lucky), rush to work, come home, eat dinner, watch a little tv, go to bed. Does this sound familiar? Did your day go by in a blur? Maybe it was not so rushed, but was it a day that lacked purpose, meaning, or value? What
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It’s Thanksgiving time! This time of year in the United States, families look forward to spending time with family and cooking a huge, gigantic, gourmet meal centered around–pie. No, it’s turkey. It should be pie, but it’s all about the bird for most families. Just to go off tangent for a minute–ironically, this is the time
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I love daisies. They’re beautiful flowers that for me exude a sense of innocence, naiveté, fun, and beauty in its simplest form. Some people may not like daisies because they don’t have a scent. They prefer roses. Roses come in more colors and varieties. Plus, some of them smell heavenly! Some people don’t like roses
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In our book The Secrets of Loving Relationships, my husband and I write about emotional wounding. Emotional wounds can harm your relationship by diminishing your ability to connect with your partner. Emotional wounds can occur during adulthood, but many originate in childhood. How do you know you have emotional wounds? When you act in dysfunctional ways. You’re reactive,
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I believe each one of us has a light inside of us which is the essence of our soul. This light is connected to the oneness of the universe and All That Is. When we are born, we are this light. Over time, however, this light becomes smaller and smaller as we struggle with the weight of
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Ahhh the grumpies….Everyone gets in a bad mood once in awhile. Maybe you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or someone inadvertently says something that triggers your grumpiness. However you found yourself in a bad mood, you know you don’t want to stay in it. How do you get out of a
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