I love quotes.  I can sit for hours reading various quotes in books or on the Internet.  I collect quotes that resonate with me and keep a Word doc on the ones I like.  I think the right quote at the right time can be quite powerful.  This quote is one of my favorites (and I have many!):

“Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together.” ― Jessica Howell

I love this quote.  If you think back to the challenging times during your life, you can always find something positive that came out of it.  Maybe you’ve gained strength, or wisdom; a new partner, or a better job.  I’ve had many things in my life fall apart, but always, something better came along.  I’ve realized that if you have faith and hope that things will be alright, you’ll get through it a lot faster and with a lot less pain.

The year my marriage fell apart, I went to visit my parents in Florida.  While out shopping one day, I stopped in a store that had a basket of small stones by the register.  Each of them had words on them like Faith, Love, Acceptance, Harmony, etc.  I reached in and pulled out one that said Trust.  I still have that stone and I’ve placed it on my nightstand to remember to trust that everything, if we allow it, turns out even better than we ever could imagine.

Another one of my favorite quotes that helped me get over divorce is:

“Suffering is not seeing things the way they are.”

I attribute this quote to Stephen Cope, but I could be wrong on that (I like to give credit where credit is due).  While I was going through the rough spots of divorce, this helped me deal with what is and to remind myself that I could choose to stay stuck in hurt, anger, and blame or I could be in a place of peace, happiness, and positivity regardless of what was happening around me.

Suffering is a choice, just like being happy is.  Divorce was what was real for me–and for millions of others, too–I’m not the only one who’s had to go through that experience.  You can fight it, stay stuck in it, go backwards, go forwards–it’s all your choice.  The key in this quote is to accept things as they are and spend your energy on things that will enhance your life, not detract from it.   Which, um, kinda leads me back to the quotes…they can enhance your life and empower you to get a new perspective and a new story of your life.

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