Suffering is a Choice–Just Like Being Happy Is

I love quotes.  I can sit for hours reading various quotes in books or on the Internet.  I collect quotes that resonate with me and keep a Word doc on the ones I like.  I think the right quote at the right time can be quite powerful.  This quote is one of my favorites (and I have many!):

“Sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together.” ― Jessica Howell

I love this quote.  If you think back to the challenging times during your life, you can always find something positive that came out of it.  Maybe you’ve gained strength, or wisdom; a new partner, or a better job.  I’ve had many things in my life fall apart, but always, something better came along.  I’ve realized that if you have faith and hope that things will be alright, you’ll get through it a lot faster and with a lot less pain.

quote of the weekThe year my marriage fell apart, I went to visit my parents in Florida.  While out shopping one day, I stopped in a store that had a basket of small stones by the register.  Each of them had words on them like Faith, Love, Acceptance, Harmony, etc.  I reached in and pulled out one that said Trust.  I still have that stone and I’ve placed it on my nightstand to remember to trust that everything, if we allow it, turns out even better than we ever could imagine.

Another one of my favorite quotes that helped me get over divorce is:

“Suffering is not seeing things the way they are.”

I attribute this quote to Stephen Cope, but I could be wrong on that (I like to give credit where credit is due).  While I was going through the rough spots of divorce, this helped me deal with what is and to remind myself that I could choose to stay stuck in hurt, anger, and blame or I could be in a place of peace, happiness, and positivity regardless of what was happening around me.

Suffering is a choice, just like being happy is.  Divorce was what was real for me–and for millions of others, too–I’m not the only one who’s had to go through that experience.  You can fight it, stay stuck in it, go backwards, go forwards–it’s all your choice.  The key in this quote is to accept things as they are and spend your energy on things that will enhance your life, not detract from it.   Which, um, kinda leads me back to the quotes…they can enhance your life and empower you to get a new perspective and a new story of your life.

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10 thoughts on “Suffering is a Choice–Just Like Being Happy Is”

    1. Thanks Leah! And thanks again for the concept of “Quote of the Week!” A lot of the quotes I share on the blog and on Twitter have really helped me throughout the years and it’s nice to be able to share them.

  1. Put the time in to Enhance your life!! Divorce can be ugly but if you know in your heart that it is the right thing to do it is relief. I have never no regrets about divorcing my husband some 20 years ago. Thanks for visiting my blog and making a comment on my SITS day.

    1. Hi fellow SITStah! I’m glad to hear you don’t have any regrets. Divorce can be so painful, especially if you keep looking backwards (or projecting into the future), but when you reach a point where you’re hopeful, where you’ve healed your wounds–that’s a great place to be! Awesome to hear that you feel you’ve done the right thing!

  2. Love your quotes. I collect them. I think you are right, every adverse situation has an up side. You just have to be open to it. Thanks for sharing my SITS Day yesterday!

    1. Thank you Laurie. Wish I could take credit for them! And I’m so glad you had your very own SITS day! I wish you many more!

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