Stress and Your Immune System

I’ve met maybe a handful of people during my lifetime who had amazing childhoods. Most people don’t. Most people still carry around old wounds and trauma from years and decades ago. The stress caused by not dealing with childhood stuff still affects your life, even if you try oh-so-very-hard to put it neatly away and […]

New Year (and Decade), New Beginning

To most of you, the beginning of a new year means a fresh beginning. A chance to start anew. How amazing is that, that we have the ability to reflect (and act) on our future?Actually, at any point in time, we have this ability. Some people do goal-setting around the time when their kids go […]

Ditch the Holiday Stress

If you’re like me, your mind is filled with your holiday to-do list. And this to-do list feels never-ending!  Let’s see… there are gifts to get, cards to send out,get-togethers to plan,cooking and baking,extra cleaning,dealing with family personality issues… It’s stressful this time of year! Here are a few tips to help you handle holiday stress: 1 RestMake sure […]

Tolerating the Tolerable: How to Break Free of a Frenzied, Frustrating Life

In my book Transforming Divorce, I wrote a chapter called “What are You Tolerating?” I wrote the chapter (and book) to help women going through a major relationship breakup, to look at their lives and assess what they don’t like. A breakup provides an opportunity, as upsetting as it is, to clean the slate and start […]

Creating Holiday Intentions

The holiday season is upon us. I’m writing this article right before the start of December when things start to get a little crazy. Black Friday, Cyber Monday, Giving Tuesday (love that!), and more stress to add to what can already be a stressful time of year. Gotta get the deal and save money. Oh […]

How Triangles Mess Up Your Relationships

Triangles (not the shape but the relationship dynamic) can mess up relationships especially if you aren’t aware of what they are and what they can do.  Everyone, to some extent, has relationships that are triangles.  Triangles, according to Murray Bowen*, a psychiatrist and one of the early marriage and family therapists, are “the smallest stable […]

A Coaching (and Counseling) Tool that Can Have a HUGE Impact on Your Life

With a coaching and counseling background, I have been exposed to a lot of excellent resources that help people create better relationships with themselves, with their partner, and with their family.  I liken all of this education and knowledge to a tool box–there are all kinds of different tools therapists and coaches can use to […]

Why Complaining About Your Ex Can Actually be Bad for You

When I first separated from my ex, it was hard to refrain from stating what I was going through to a selective audience who would listen.  Most of my inner circle knew what was going on and they knew about my painful break-up after 17 years of being married.  It’s hard to shift into making […]

How not to allow divorce to suck the life out of you

Divorce.  It is one of the most stressful things you can go through, up there on the list with the death of a loved one and a major job loss.  If you’ve been through one–especially if it was acrimonious–you’ll know that while it wasn’t easy, chances are it provided you with incredible learning opportunities (whether […]

5 Powerful Tips to Help You Get Over a Painful Divorce

Going through a painful divorce?  Are you already divorced but having a hard time moving on?  With more than half of marriages ending up in divorce, wouldn’t you think there would be a heck of a lot more material out there on how to get over a major relationship break-up like this? Some people remain […]

It’s that Emotional Time of the Year: The Holidays!

It’s that emotional time of the year–it’s the holidays!  For some people, the stress of doing it all, and doing it perfectly creates a stressed out ball of nerves. You know what I’m talking about!  If it’s not you, you know someone like this.  I’m sure that’s not how they want to be creating lasting […]

How to Create Meaningful Traditions with Your Family–Simple Fall Pleasures

I love all the seasons–they all have their special traditions and memories for me.  Fall is no exception.  Fall is a wonderful time to be out in nature.  It’s a lovely time of year to go for a hike or go for a run on trails to see the beautiful foliage. Family traditions mean a lot and […]

What Are Your Goals Right Now?

Here’s an all too familiar question that life coaches ask their clients: What are your goals right now? It’s a great question because it provides a focus and direction to your life.  Maybe it’s to own a nice house?  Vacation in Europe?  Drive a luxury car?  Meet your soul mate?  Work from home?  Have a really […]

5 Easy Ways to Combat Stress

Ahhh stress….it feels like an old friend sometimes, doesn’t it?  Maybe you are having trouble sleeping or you’re snappier than usual.  Your family pays a price, your friends, co-workers–but who pays the biggest price?  YOU!  Your physical, emotional, spiritual, and psychological health pay a price.  And you know what happens too, when you get really […]

7 Ways to Set Yourself Up for Joy this Holiday Season!

Ahhhh….the holiday season.  Let’s see…there’s holiday parties, gifts to purchase and wrap, kids to calm down, memories to make–not to mention all those holiday recipes to make too!  Oh, and there’s holiday cards to purchase, address, and send, and…oh boy!  Is your stress level rising as you read this?  Are you going over a mental […]

Suffering is a Choice–Just Like Being Happy Is

I love quotes.  I can sit for hours reading various quotes in books or on the Internet.  I collect quotes that resonate with me and keep a Word doc on the ones I like.  I think the right quote at the right time can be quite powerful.  This quote is one of my favorites (and […]

10 Roadblocks to Your Success-Breaking Down the Brick Wall

(This is a guest post written by my Handsome Husband, Don Nenninger)  Imagine that you are walking down a path and a brick wall has been placed directly in front of you. It’s solid, it’s tangible, and it’s obvious that something needs to change for you to continue. Or, you can stay exactly where you […]