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I recently watched a Ted Talk with Coach John Wooden–which was really inspiring (Did you know?  The word inspire comes from a Latin word which means to breathe ~Source: .  Coach Wooden’s speech is filled with his old-fashioned notion of values, which is peppered throughout with stories from his own life.

During his talk, he mentions his Pyramid of Success (they have a printable download on the Coach John Wooden site).  Here’s Coach Wooden’s definition of success:


– John Wooden

John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success was meant for his players, but it can be used in life as well.  There are 15 building blocks, with faith and patience holding up the pyramid on the sides.  The blocks are:

industriousness friendship loyalty
cooperation enthusiasm self-control
alertness initiative intentness
condition skill team spirit
poise confidence competitive greatness


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While it is obvious the Pyramid is meant for a team, it can also be applied toward families, marriages, and the work place.  How can you apply some of these traits to your own life?  I think one of the cornerstones of marriage is commitment (which isn’t on here), but a marriage can also benefit from enthusiasm, cooperation, loyalty, and friendship.  What traits would you put on your pyramid of success for marriage (or partnership)?  What are the traits for a great family life?  Do you live your vision?  Do you have a vision?

At the bottom of the Pyramid of Success are his 12 Lessons in Leadership–again geared toward a team, but these can also be translated into your real-life relationships–personal and professional.   For example:  #1.  Good values attract good people.  #7.  Make each day your masterpiece.  #9.  Make greatness attainable by all.

This week, think about how you exist in the world–what your important values are and how you’re being guided by them.  Do you know what your values are for relationships, for family, or for work?


Published by Nicole Nenninger

Nicole Nenninger MA Psychology, MA Marriage & Family Therapy Nicole is a coach (life and relationship), counselor, author and course instructor. She understands that the relationship you have with yourself reflects the overall quality of your life. In addition the relationship you have with yourself affects the relationship you have with your partner and with others. Nicole helps women in midlife who struggle with self-esteem and confidence, life purpose, life balance, motivation and direction, relationship issues, break-ups, and more. Nicole lives in a beautiful coastal town on Long Island, New York with her handsome husband and soul mate, 2 dogs and a cat. Her 4 children are young adults living their best lives. She loves running, reading, learning, kayaking, and going to the beach.

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  1. Sounds like a great talk — will check it out! I love that definition of success. It’s all about the journey and the effort that goes in it makes it rewarding – or not.

    1. More often than not, it’s the journey not the destination that makes life rewarding. TedTalks are a great way to get inspired and realigned with your purpose and values. Some of the world’s greatest wisdom comes from sports coaches–I love how they see things through a team-oriented approach, much like a family. We’re all individuals but we function within groups–groups of family, community, church, school, work, etc. Instead of competition, I wish more people would begin to work from a cooperative standpoint. Anyway, I can go on and on about this, but I think the emphasis in the Western world on me, me, me instead of we is detrimental to a culture, to family, to marriages, etc.

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